Does Audio Erotica Make You Better in Bed?

Audio erotica can indeed make you better in bed.

Audio erotica improves erotic intelligence, helps you become more confident with your sexuality, and can enhance your ability to orgasm. It can teach you to promote novelty, keeping your intimate life exciting, and helps you learn to build sexual tension and anticipation for heightened pleasure.

I have been in the audio erotica space for close to a year and I have had the unique opportunity to note many changes in our listeners over the course of my time in this space. From their confidence in the bedroom to nurturing the understanding of what makes themselves tick. This article will examine the ways in which audio erotica has helped many women to become better in the bedroom.

What Is Audio Erotica?

In short, think of audio erotica as an erotic movie—with professional actors and special sound effects—but without the visual element. It features a good dose of dirty talk, masculine moans, grunts, and other sexy sounds.

What differentiates audio erotica from porn or erotic literature is its immersive and intimate nature. Instead of being a spectator, you become a participant. The voice actor speaks directly to you, creating a sensation as if they are right there next to you. And while the audio guides the story, your imagination fills in all of the details, making it a very intimate experience. It’s perfect for absorbing the skills you need to become an amazing partner in bed.

What Makes Women Good in Bed?

Before jumping into the ‘how do I get good’ part, let’s think about what ‘good in bed’ actually means. Because it’s probably not what you think it is.

So what makes women good in bed in the first place? Secret techniques, yogi-worthy positions and mind-blowing BJ skills or something else? I’ve asked Rob, the founder of Best Kept Secret, to share his thoughts. I also went on a quest to find out what many of my friends had to say about the topic. And I peeked into some forums to learn a broader perspective.

Overall, ‘being good in bed’ can be boiled down to four points:

Enthusiasm

I have been blessed to have many open-minded guys in my friend circle and every single one of them said that nothing kills the mood more than a starfish in bed. Aka, being pro-active and enthusiastic goes a long way. Add moans, dirty talk and sexy teasing and you’ve got a happy man.

Technique: Don’t Use Your Teeth

Enthusiasm was closely followed by a big no-no: getting your teeth out in their most sensitive areas. This has also come up in almost every forum, thread or conversation on what not to do in sex. When going down on a guy, cover your teeth, and you have nailed one of the most important steps.

Willingness to Please Him

I know this point may come across as controversial, given the increasing number of women reporting that men are putting in less and less effort into learning about their partners and ensuring both parties are satisfied. Yes, I am looking at you, Tinder guys. However, it is important to note that if your man is invested in your pleasure, your willingness to give back does matter a great deal.

Rob, the founder of Best Kept Secret adds: “willingness to please your partner can make it or break it in bed (and this goes both ways, for men and women).

Both partners should put in the work, explore what makes the other partner tick and spend some time focusing just on the other partner’s pleasure. If you are willing to go the extra mile to make your partner feel amazing it’s an awesome experience guaranteed.”

Learning and Trying New Things

New experiences keep the bedroom life exciting. The memories you build together by engaging in new sexy adventures is one of those things that will remind him of you in the middle of the day, getting him hard just from the thought of you. And sharing many firsts together will strengthen your relationship and make you closer and more intimate in the long term.

The key takeaway on what makes a woman good in bed is, while some basic technique matters, aka. don’t nibble on your boyfriend’s private parts with your teeth, the most important component is more mental than physical.

And lucky for us women, guys value the psychological component way more than top-notch BJ skills. And they are actually quite easy to master and incorporate in your own bedroom life.

How Does Audio Erotica Help You Become Better in Bed?

Build Confidence

The human mind has an interesting feature: the more times we experience something, the more safe that something is perceived to be. As a result, our minds become more relaxed and less stressed each time this experience is repeated.

In psychology, this phenomenon is called the “mere exposure effect”. I won’t bore you with all the theory, but essentially, in the realm of intimacy, it means the more positive sexual experiences you’ve had, the more you can let go and enjoy yourself.

Audio erotica allows you to accelerate this process by simulating the sexual experience.

When listening to an audio recording, you become a participant rather than a spectator (as is the case with erotic books or porn). A voice actor communicating directly with you, combined with the active participation of your imagination, conditions your brain into feeling like you’re inside the scenario. Audio erotica is the most realistic medium and the next best thing to real-life intimacy, as I’ve discussed more in a previous article.

Listening to and re-living different kinds of scenarios in your mind will help you become at ease with similar situations and build your confidence in bed. So, when the time comes, you won’t have to overthink; you’ll have subconscious intuition on what to do, as your brain will have been in these situations many times before.

Express Passion and Enthusiasm

Almost every guy I know has complained about a partner who acts like a ‘starfish’—just laying there and waiting for the magic to happen. Men are turned on by the sight of you enjoying yourself, as well as seeing you enjoy them.

I know from experience that it can be difficult to let go in the bedroom, especially if you are on the shy side or tend to overthink things. The chances are, it won’t be easy for you to let him hear your moans or to sometimes take the lead.

By listening to audio erotica, you can learn to express your passion and enthusiasm. Similarly to the point on confidence, discussed above, you can condition yourself into feeling more comfortable with expressing your pleasure, simply by becoming more familiar with it.

Erotic audios guide you and often give you instructions (e.g. ”Moan for me, baby… louder, baby…”). So, you can first ease into expressing yourself while being alone, with your audio guide leading the way. Then, you will be able to let go with your real-life partner.

Master Your Kinks

• Find What Turns You On

Engaging with audio erotica exposes you to an array of kinks and scenarios, enabling you to become more comfortable with them. Consequently, you’ll find new things that turn you on, that you never thought would. Your partner will undoubtedly notice your increased enthusiasm. For many men, there’s nothing more attractive than a partner who isn’t afraid to express her pleasure and take an active role in the experience.

• Become Comfortable With The Things That Turn You On

One of the truly unique features of the audio erotica community is the presence of a group of like-minded women. Unlike the realm of traditional porn where meaningful conversations about sex and relationships are rare, audio erotica fosters a very different atmosphere. Instead of ‘pervy’ comments from creepy sounding men, the comment section of audio erotica often houses intelligent and respectful discussions.

It is liberating to know there are many other women who not only share your interests but also your unique kinks. Whether you are a virgin, into BDSM, love to be called ‘little girl’ or identify as a hopeless romantic, you will find other women in the same boat. If porn makes you feel like only creeps and weirdos would like something like that, in the audio erotica community you will realise many of these women may share the same intimate interests as you, all the while leading completely ‘normal’ lives outside this platform. They are not creepy or weird internet loners. These women are just like you, with normal jobs, school, friends and relationships. Connecting and embracing their sexual interests.

This can be incredibly reassuring, especially if you’ve ever felt shy or embarrassed about your kinks. And being open and comfortable with your kinks will spice up your bedroom life, increase your (and his) pleasure and promote mutual exploration.

Become a Pro at Dirty-Talk

Dirty-talk is one of the hottest things a woman can do. However, it’s also something many of us (including myself) find challenging. As a naturally quiet person who only speaks when I truly have something to say, dirty talk doesn’t exactly come easily to me.

In this regard, audio erotica is dirty-talk heaven: a sexy voice whispering hot things in your ear for half an hour or more. As we listen to more erotic audios, we can become proficient at dirty talk. We start memorizing certain phrases, developing an intuitive understanding of what to say, and consequently, feel more comfortable using dirty talk in real-life scenarios.

For me personally, audio erotica has changed my dirty-talk game. While I’m far from being a pro, I’m now comfortable explaining in great detail to my man how much I enjoy every single part of him… while going down on him looking straight into his eyes. Witnessing him get harder and harder just from my words is like viagra for women.

Improve Your Erotic Intelligence

People who possess high IQs are often characterized by quick learning and analytical skills. On the other hand, those with high emotional intelligence have a knack for forging friendships, building relationships, and managing people effectively.

However, those graced with erotic intelligence make superb partners in the bedroom. These individuals intuitively understand their partner’s desires, know exactly what to say and do to push all the right buttons, and sense when it’s time to introduce something new or slow down the pace.

The concept of erotic intelligence was first coined by psychotherapist Esther Perel, who describes it as the fusion of imagination, playfulness, novelty, and an understanding of each other’s desires – essentially, all the elements beyond mere physical abilities.

Erotic intelligence is the one thing most likely to make your partner remember you as ‘Damn, she was so good’. In a sense, it’s everything we talked about above tied together. When all those skills come together, it’s when the magic happens.

Audio erotica can greatly improve your erotic intelligence. By combining it with self exploration and intimate experiences with your partner, you’ll gradually develop an intuitive sense of how to excel in the bedroom. Just as people with high emotional intelligence don’t think about how to make friends… they just do – similarly you won’t need to think about how to make the best out of a sexual encounter… you’ll just do.

Encourage Novelty

Erotic intelligence involves being open to new experiences, maintaining a sense of curiosity, and nurturing playfulness in sexual relationships. Trying new things can introduce an element of surprise, whether they involve new activities, toys, roles, or locations for intimacy. The unfamiliarity can create a sense of suspense and anticipation, which can enhance arousal.

Audio erotica provides you with a myriad of ideas to experiment with your partner. From scenarios to positions to locations, kinks and dirty – talk phrases. Every audio is different and you will never run out of exciting things to surprise your partner with.

Improve Communication

Many women find it difficult to articulate their sexual needs and desires to their partners. Improving erotic intelligence can help in articulating these desires more clearly and confidently, leading to better mutual understanding and more fulfilling sexual encounters.

By listening to audios you will understand yourself better. What things and scenarios arouse you. Maybe there are similar situations, but you don’t enjoy them. The better you understand yourself, the easier it will be to explain this to your partner.

Moreover, the more frequently you listen to erotica, the simpler it becomes to discuss these topics. The good old exposure effect makes it easy to talk about something we have heard many times before.

If verbalizing your desires still proves challenging, you can also share specific erotic audios with your partner. This will provide them with a clear insight into your fantasies

Learn to Build Sexual Tension and Anticipation

Anticipation plays a significant role in sexual arousal. After all, the brain is our most important sexual organ; becoming excited about what’s going to happen can often be as erotic as the act itself.

Anticipation, foreplay, and teasing are integral components of every erotic audio. During each audio experience, a considerable amount of time is dedicated to building anticipation through flirting and teasing. By consistently listening to audio erotica, you’ll internalize these methods and naturally incorporate them into your own intimate encounters. Over time, you’ll develop the ability to keep your partner on their toes, even before touching them.

Introduce Mystery

Leaving room for some mystery creates suspense. This doesn’t mean being dishonest but rather maintaining a sense of individuality and not becoming overly predictable. For instance, surprising your partner with a new move, or revealing new aspects of your desires can keep the relationship exciting.

Opening up emotionally, sharing fantasies, or expressing desires can feel risky, but it can also create a deep sense of connection and intimacy. This vulnerability can enhance the emotional suspense in a relationship.

Some couples enjoy playing with power dynamics, such as dominance and submission, as a way to create suspense. It’s important that this is done consensually and respectfully, with clear communication and boundaries.

Similar to the point on novelty, audio erotica will give you a million ideas on how to keep the mystery component in your sex life and make every intimate encounter exciting and full of surprises.

Where to Listen to Audio Erotica?

We’ve devoted an entire article to best places to listen to audio erotica. so if you want to find tips and recommendations on where to find the best of the best audios, head to the article.

To provide a brief overview, audio erotica is available through both free and paid channels. As is often the case, the premium content tends to be tucked behind a paywall on platforms such as Patreon.

But there are also great free sources, such as PornHub (if you don’t mind the in-your-face overly-explicit ads), YouTube, Reddit, Soundgasm and Literotica. Given Literotica’s somewhat less-than-user-friendly browsing system, we’ve compiled a list of the site’s most popular erotic audios for your convenience.

In addition to these resources, Best Kept Secret boasts an expansive library of nearly 400 erotic audios. With a promise of sexy voices and strong Os, it’s certainly worth exploring!

Key Insights on Audio Erotica and Erotic Intelligence

Audio Erotica serves as the most authentic simulation of real-life intimacy currently available. By immersing yourself in erotic audio narratives, you can heighten your erotic intelligence, cultivate increased confidence and expressiveness in your intimate encounters, and develop an instinctive understanding of how to foster anticipation. Moreover, you’ll glean countless ideas to keep your sex life fresh and exciting.

With a library that boasts nearly 400 sexy erotic audios, Best Kept Secret is an exceptional starting point for your exploration of audio erotica.